I feel so bad I can't spend quality time Champion and lil' President. That is the drawback of having kids with close age gaps :(
When I was pregnant for lil' President, I had to train Champion to be more attached to apps. Then when he was born, of course, I had to take care of the newborn and apps continued to take care of Champion.
When I knew I was pregnant with Aaron, again, I trained lil' President to be close to apps. Before that, he would only look for my arm.. to scratch my elbow. After the training, apps elbow would do too *sigh*
Now that Aaron is born, I have to take care of him, while apps concentrates of the other two. I try to spend as much time as possible with the boys. As of now, the boys are going to my in-laws during the day (as usual) and comes home with apps only late evening. So, its just few hours there for me. Unfortunately, Aaron is extremenely fussy in the late evenings till sleep time. He wants to be held and feed almost constantly! So, how can I spend even the least time with my boys? :(
Sometimes Aaron manages to sleep for 1/2 hour, which is when I eat with the boys or sit with then at the dining table (if I have had my dinner).
But the saddest time is putting the boys to sleep at night, especially when apps is coming home late. I will have to put Aaron to sleep and the boys won't sleep till I join them. Sometimes they just sit on the bed waiting for me.. calling out to me.. "Come amma.." Sometimes they come and stand beside me.. waiting for me to finish feeding Aaron and put him to sleep. *sigh*
Luckily Champion is loving and doesn't mind taking care of lil' President.. whole is still a baby even though he is the mischievous one. Last night Champion offered to and over the milk when lil' President insisted I pass it to him. He asked his brother to sleep and put the bottle in his mouth. Afte he had finished, he called out to me "Amma, come amma.. give me hand" And again, I had to ask Champion for a favour. Champion willingly offered his hand and lil' President held his brother hand while waiting for me to come. Although that moment didn't last long (they ended up playing with each other), I was touched. I had to tell Champion that I was proud of him for loving and taking care of his brother! He smiled :)
After so long of waiting, Aaron slept off. I joined the boys.. kiss each other 'good night', said our "I love yous & sweet dreams".. As I hug them to sleep, I hear Aaron start his small cry.. he needed cuddling again! Argghh.. I had to leave the boys.
After a minute I came back to them and they were already asleep *sigh*
How I miss them.. I just wish I can stop the time sometimes!
10 comments:
luckily champion is understanding n a lovely bro - so at least the situation is controlable
i guess it will take time - what about bringing aaron to the childrens room
Wow that was lovely, Champion proving his care as elder brother to all :) I feel the love you crave to show for lil and Champion, I wish the boys gets there care from you always. Be happy friend.
Don't feel too bad .I think all mothers feel like they are not giving enough attention to the other kids especially when they are close in age.Champion is really stepping up and being the elder brother.
I came across your blog few weeks ago as I searched through something. Starting then, I started to adore your children, 'envy' of your loving family, amazed by Champion's growing sense of responsibility and excited of the growth of both boys. First of all, wishing congratulations for the new addition in the family (though i know its quite late, felt shy to leave the comment before). I could feel what you could feel there. Hope the transition period of getting use to the new member in the family will be a smooth journey for you. Lucky you have two adorable boys that understand you better. As time flies I am sure you will be good in dividing attention for your boys, maybe its too early for you. I pray for you and best wishes...
visithra,
Luckily.. but sometimes he can be moody and decide not to be very responsible.
Yeah, until then, I will have to be patient. The boys are actually still sleeping in our room. They love to hold our hands or hug us to go to sleep :)
jeevan,
I guess the elder child always has the automatic sense of responsibility huh!
I guess things will be better when Aaron grow a little older..
Hmm, can't wait!
starry nights,
Luckily their dad can step in and spend time with them when I am handling Aaron. But when he is not home, they do come circling my legs..
I guess its good that Champion is being a great elder brother. I love seeing him take care of his brother.. acts as if he is so much elder :)
priya,
Thanks for the comments..
Children are ever amazing.. each with a characted of their own. Not wanting to miss their childhood acts, I blog about them and the love around me..
Never to late for the wishes.. thanks :)
Give some time, things should be better. Hope to be able to give all three unconditional love :)
awww....i know what you mean but i guess you got to go through this one for the first few months....hang in there!
Happy Deepavali friend, enjoy with your boys :)
mom2ashley,
Yeap.. I hope the boys will continue to understand :)
jeevan,
Happy Deepavali to you and your family too :)
I feel the same too at times..
That with Zaria's arrival, I can't spend as much time as I could with Zara..
And if Zara needed the attention.. Zaria will be at a lost.
But then.. as parents of more than 1 kids, we'll just have to balance it.
zara's mama,
Yeah, I agree with you. We just need to balance our time with them.. and may be spend time with all of them together ;)
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