Why do they say this?
I believe it all goes back to personal experiences. They have a sibling of the opposite sex and both of them are not as close as they wanted to be.. They don’t seem to be able to share many things, many say.
On the contrary, I don’t have any problem with having a sibling of the opposite sex.
My one and only thambi..
my friend,
my companion,
my guardian,
my advisor.
My friend,
you and I, share lots of stories..
My companion,
you offer me companionship when I need company..
My guardian,
you had a watchful eye on me as we grew up..
My advisor,
I trust in you to advise me now and then..
Thambhi..
I know, I can always turn to you for anything!
As thambhi and I share many common things with each other and grew up closely, I believe that I could guide my children to be close to each other (siblings) as I was with thambhi. If I get a girl later, I want her to be close to her brothers, and not have them leave her alone and be with themselves.
For this relationship of love, I have to thank appa and amma. If not for their constant reminder to be loving to each other, we would not be as close as we are now.
I remember how appa and amma insisted that I call thambhi as thambhi and not my his name, and vice versa.. he calls me akka, and not by my name. Now, at an older age, I find this habit very loving. I believe this was the major step in our sibling relationship.
Now, I constantly remind the boys to call each other, anna/thambhi. As much as the boys can remember, they will call each other anna/thambhi. But sometimes, they do cheekily call each other names.
This early childhood may find them playful at calling each other names, but as they grow, I hope they address each other respectfully.. as how I found it to be an important part of my growing up lessons..
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thambi - younger brother
akka -elder sister
anna - elder brother
11 comments:
So true Geeta. In my case, my parents were never insistant about that so I dont share that with my brother or sister.
That is why I make an extra effort to make sure Inarah calls her sister "ben" which is sister in gujerati. To the extent that we end up calling her "ben".
Hi geeta- nice blogs all
thanks for visiting me
i will be back
hope thambi and anna get well soon and recover from the chiken pox
shamira,
It does make a difference, yuo know. I'm glad mine insisted it :)
That's good.. I am sure they will be very loving to each other. Shamira should be doing the same too :P
artnavy,
Thanks :)
Yeap, I really hope so too. I want to see them running around the house again.. with me chasing them around! ;)
i guess brotherly love and sisterly love is 2 diff thing.
how sweet
bro n i have an on n off relationship - sometimes its great sometimes i isnt - but he calls me akka n i call him by name - i really believe u should not call elders by name - thats where children learn u dont need to give respect to elders - though it seems such a silly thing
What a sweet note for ur thambi. did u show this 2 him? Im sure he wld love it!
jazzmint,
Yeap, really sweet indeed :)
visithra,
Somehow I believe it is a good start for a long lasting relationship between siblings :)
Apart from respect to elders, we find some kind of closeness to the person.. where just anybody can't have :)
has to be me,
I just wanted him to know. I haven't, but may be he should read it, huh ;)
I gave a lonnnng comment on relations/siblings your post yesterday,. Surprised that it didnt reach you.
Better luck, next time and Congrats for your article to be published as a cover story. Can you mail me the article,at chitra182@gmail.com. I mght nt understand all the technicalities but i wd love to read it.
chitra,
Really? So sorry. I think there was a problem with blogger, as my brother tried to comment as well and it didn't appear too :(
You can always leave your comment again, and I would love to read it ;P
Thank you. Sure :)
Has to be me - comment was very true. The sweet thought will keep the flame glowing in sibilings relationship. It is one way of making life blissful,colourful and to reminisce.
Amma
amma,
I did tell thambhi. He had read it, but was having some technical problems leaving a comment :(
(Some problem with Blogger!)
All thanks to the guidance from the both of you :)
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