Are we labeled?

I wonder whether we are labeled by our boys; that I’m bad and he’s good!

I do the scolding. I do the smacking. I do the disciplining. I do all this, so I’m bad.

He just sits there and calls out, “Sayang, see Champion”, “Sayang, see lil’ President”, “I tell amma ah..” he doesn't scold them, so he's good.

The boys obey my instructions more than his. They know I mean what I say.

I keep chasing them.. what to do, what not to do, what to say, what not to say, etc. they consider me strict. When I condition them, they run to apps. Since apps doesn’t scold them, the matter is just left to cool down. But the issue is not settled! They have not learnt why I was conditioning them. How am I to teach them if he handles it lightly? *sigh*

But I know, when there is a need, he will condition them. Then again, this need is only applicable for those very dangerous acts and very naughty behaviour that may cause some kind of harm or injury to somebody. He saves this strict nature of his for when there is need.

However, I am glad that even though they know that I am strict..

both of them are delighted to see me everyday after work, as if they haven’t seen me for days;

both of them run to me for those spontaneous hugs and kisses;

both of them need me when they are not feeling well;

both of them look forward to being close with me in a crowded place;

both of them feel secured with me when they are scared;

both of them gives me the sweetest goodnight hug and kiss;

both of them takes pleasure in doing things with me!