“Yes.” I didn't bother whether her girls were sleeping with them, but before I could reciprocate her question, she proudly said “Ooo, they sleep on their own.” *pointing to her two girls*
“Wah, that’s good., trying to make her feel good, since she is proud of it ;)
“I started training them to sleep on their own since the second one was born.”
“Oohh.. Hey, you not scared that they will get up and wander off around the house in the middle of the nights?”
“I haven’t thought of that actually. Hehehehe..”
“I wonder whether Champion will get up earlier in the mornings and go down to watch Barney all by himself?” *laugh*
conversation went on as usual..
I was discussing with apps about how proud she was of her girls who are sleeping on their own. Even though I agree that they are being independent, I don’t think I will force that much of independence on my boys just yet.. not at this tender years.
I was telling him how they would miss their children’s morning freshness; their hugs, kisses, warmth, laziness, morning blabbers and so much more... I talk from experience, again and again, everyday :)
I find these very refreshing. God’s gift of a brand new day is enhanced by His special gifts to us.
Apart from that, I have read that sleeping with parents gives the child a good sense of security and comfort. It builds up their confidence.
What more reasons do I need for them to sleep with us?
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They are so young,they enjoy the security of being with mom and dad. I know people may not agree with me, but I have seen both sides , children sleeping alone and children sleeping with parents, both turn out ok, when they are old enough they wont want to sleep with you and will learn to be independant.
Yeah thoughI miss my space on the bed and the opportunity to cuddle up with hubby romanticly..I will not force it upon them to go on thier own. When they are ready - I think the signs will come!
Enjoy it while u can...
starry nights,
Yeah, when they are older, they may want to sleep by themselves.
I am ready to let them go when they are ready.. but when the time is right and they don't want to let go, I shall get them trained myself :)
mjey,
Same here.. I miss those romantic touches.. but when I'm getting the loving gestures from my children, I don't mind. Children will grow and will soon get off our arms..
so, have to enjoy while we can ;)
I think i started sleeping alone by 4 - we were put on bunk beds bro and i - own room and all - its kinda nice - own independance - n then the stories of falling of the bed make interesting stories to tell now ;p
but the pleasures r there - the morning wake ups i guess
I think when it comes to ways of bringing up your children... there are always two sides on a coin... comparing with each other is quite pointless... but sharing is still healthy though :)
at the end of the day, we still want our children to be unique from anyone else :P
visithra,
I guess 4 years old is a good age.
I plan to let them sleep in their rooms about that age too.. 2 years old is kind of young, huh?
I know.. It was fun for us to have our own room too. We made tents out of our bunks and visited each other.. kicked the person sleeping on top bed (our bed was spring), etc.. I remember how my brother fell down from the top bunk *ouch* :)
Yeap, have to catch those pleasure while I can. They are growing up real fast ;)
egghead,
Yeah, I hate it when they share to compare. Arghh! So what if she does, did and my son doesn't?
Since it's hubby's friend's wife, I just have to be nice and carry on that kind of conversations!
I agree with you. They are best being what they are.. Some people have pride in pointing out their child raising techniques *sigh*
I cannot understand why parents want to sleep with their kids.. until I'm a parent myself.
I really wanted to train Zara since she was borned. But when she was born.. I just didn't have the heart. I want to be close to her all the time, want to check on her all the time.
Now, like you, I do enjoy having her in the same room; waking up in the middle of the night seeing her snuggle close to me, smelling her first thing in the morning, hearing her sleep talk, etc etc..
The joy is endless.. so I guess, she may sleep with us until she no longer wants to.
zara's mama,
Agree with you.. only as a parent ourself we understand, right :)
Same here... the pleasures beats th need to train them early.. however much we planned it before they were born :)
Yeap, we would too.. at least until the 3rd child arrive ;P
i know i will have my babies sleep with me. i just dont know until when. :)
hey, awesome father`s day card!
Ryan is sleeping with us or rather me before my in-laws moved in with us...but rite now he is sleeping by himself....i can tell u frankly.. i do miss him sleeping with him! heehhe...actually he gives me the sense of security..least i know he is well covered by the blanket and safe beside me! ...hehehe..rite now..he still got up in the middle of the nite looking for us..n come rite in between me and Kit...that disturbs kit's sleep alot! sigh..dunno what to do
still figuring out,
The pleasures outbeats the need for discipline at those tender age, huh ;)
Thanks..
gene lim,
Why does he have to sleep by himself now, after in-laws moved in? Can't it be like it always was?
One day Champion stays with my parents, I miss him. I miss the hug, I miss his hands on my arm.. I can tell how much you miss him too..
I believe Ryan should just sleep with you until he (and you) is ready for his room.. ;P
Mahisha too slepps with us. Though itz a little cramped on the bed, I love it when hugs me in the sleep or climbs on top of me while sleeping. Sometimes she wakes me up by kissing me. I feel tat these r all priceless :)
puspha,
We really don't want to let go of this privellege just yet, huh :P
Geetha,
my son is 10 years old and the whole day, he does not want me but at night he has to sleep with me touch my hair and his legs on me and insists that my hand has to be on his. We both are huddled in one corner of the bed on one pillow.
though people say that it is time, he has to slep in another room, I shall wait for the day when he asks for it.
chitra,
So sweet.. a grown boy still wanting his mummy to sleep.. Most boys want their privacy, even at that age.
He will ask it when the time comes.. we don't have to rush it. Till then, you should cherish and enjoy it :)
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