March 31, 2006

My mum was mean...

... and so am I!


I received this forwarded email from my mum :)

Someday when my children are old enough to understand the logic that motivates a parent, I will tell them, as my Mean Mum told me, I loved you enough… to ask where you were going, with whom, and what time you would be home.

I loved you enough to be silent and let you discover that your new best friend was a creep.

I loved you enough to stand over you for two hours while you cleaned your room, a job that should have taken 15 minutes.

I loved you enough to let you see anger, disappointment, and tears in my eyes. Children must learn that their parents aren't perfect.

I loved you enough to let you assume the responsibility for your actions even when the penalties were so harsh they almost broke my heart.

But most of all, I loved you enough. . to say NO when I knew you would HATE me for it. Those were the most difficult battles of all.

I'm glad I won them, because in the end you won, too. And someday when your children are old enough to understand the logic that motivates parents, you will tell them.

Was your mum mean? I know mine was. We had the meanest mother in the whole world! While other kids ate candy for breakfast, we had to have cereal, eggs, and toast. When others had a Pepsi and a Twinkie for lunch, we had to eat sandwiches.

And you can guess our mother fixed us a dinner that was different from what other kids had, too.

Mother insisted on knowing where we were at all times. You'd think we were convicts in a prison. She had to know who our friends were, and what we were doing with them. She insisted that if we said we would be gone for an hour, we would be gone for an hour or less.

We were ashamed to admit it, but she had the nerve to break the Child Labor Laws by making us work. We had to wash the dishes, make the beds, and learn to cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry, and empty the trash and all sorts of cruel jobs. I think she would lie awake at night thinking of more things for us to do.

She always insisted on us telling the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. By the time we were teenagers; she could read our minds and had eyes in the back of her head. Then, life was really tough!

Mother wouldn't let our friend's just honk the horn when they drove up. They had to come up to the door so she could meet them. While everyone else could date when they were 12 or 13, we had to wait until we were 18.

Because of our mother we missed out on lots of things other kids experienced. None of us have ever been caught shoplifting, vandalizing other's property or ever arrested for any crime. It was all her fault.

Now that we have left home, we are all educated honest adults.. We are doing our best to be mean parents just like Mum was.

I think that is what's wrong with the world today. It just doesn't have enough mean mums!


And what my mum had to say…

"How true. I was really a mean mum, but I loved my children. Now, I see my daughter picking up the trait. My grandchildren are in good hands, because their mum is a mean mum too."


Hahahaha. I totally agree. We are mean mums, isn’t it, amma? I know you were mean, and I undertsand why you were mean, and I choose to be mean TOO! :)

I have followed your trick of 1, 2, 3, and learnt from you that sometimes, little smacking works :)

Sorry boys, you have to face a mean mum as you grow up, but it is all for your own good ;)

Pssstt, boys, its all ammachi's fault! She is the one who taught me to be a GOOD mum, by being a MEAN mum :)

______________________________
ammachi : maternal grandmother

8 comments:

ZMM said...

Hee hee.. We are mean mum but we try not to bee too mean..

:P

Nice writing that one..

Anonymous said...

dont worry boys, apps is not mean, I will show you love without being mean.ILU Boys.

mom2ashley said...

that's really sweet.

L B said...

*sigh* :-) I am lost for words... meanies :-) awwww...

geeth said...

zara's mama,
Yeap, all because we want them to have the best, isn't it ;P
Thanks..


apps,
Yeah, yeah.. Remember, when they are naughty, you would go, "Amms, see Champion.. " or "Amms, see lil' President.. ". That's how you can be the angel, huh?! ;)

Hey, I love them too :) I am mean (in a good way) because I love them ;P


mom2ashley,
Indeed.. that's why I posted this in my blog, the moment I received it from my mum...


L B,
Hmmm, only when we grow up we appreciate and understand the meanies. How sad :)

Allyfeel said...

Hehe.. I admitted I am a mean mum too but also try to be nice at the same time.

Hey ur hubby has better way of showing love without being mean?

curious said...

ooh..u have such a sweet blog...I married and moved to U.S and am missing my mean mom:)...ur post made me so nostalgic..experienced the cinema type flashbacks:)...I am trying to become a parent,I am sure this post will mean a lot more when i become a mean mom..i hope u got what i mean!!but for now...i miss my MOM!!
..and advanced birthday wishes to ur champs...

geeth said...

allyfeel,
Yeah, if not the kids will anti mummies! :)

Yeah, all he does is look at me. I do all the disciplining, and he is the angel ;)

He only shows his true colours when they are REALLY naughty, otherwise, the dragon in him is sleeping :P


curious,
Welcome to the Essence of Love.
I am glad that you like my blog.

This post really reminds us of our dear mums.. coz' its realy true.. how they thought, worried, and loved us..

Good luck in becoming a parent.. you will definitely enjoy, no doubt :)

I understand what you mean ;)

She loves you and she is thinking of you, just like you are!

Thanks for the wishes..

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