But wait! What is defined as the ‘right way’?
Okay, never mind that. I don’t think anyone can come up with a manual for doing it right, isn't it?. Even if they do, the human machine we have around will not necessarily follow instructions :)
So, we have to carefully think and monitor ourselves, on how we are bringing up the kids.
Many times, I have hoped that I can bring up my kids the way my parents brought me up. I can say, I am quite happy of the person I am today. I must not forget,
I am what I am because of them!
With that, I know I am following a bit of the way amms brought us up.. (with some modifications here and there, to suit the age and necessity)
One example of me following amms is the counting. Counting 1, 2, 3! Funny ah? How can 1, 2, 3 be implemented in disciplining a child?!
Whenever we are naughty and we deserve a spank or two, amms will call out to us. Of course, being disobedient and scared, we would not approach her. Then, her counting starts. She says, “If I come to you, you will get more. If you come to me, you will get less.” Then she counts, “1.., 2.., 3!” Normally, before she finishes the 3, we are next to her. And then its finished.
Hmm, I wonder whether were we naughty enough to run away from her. I can’t remember. But I know, when we got back, we would have got it anyway, even more. So, I hope we didn’t run away ;P
Now, I am following suit. When Champion is naughty or is doing something dangerous, I will tell him not to do it. If he is nice, he will stop. Naturally, kids are supposed to be naughty. So, when he is feeling mischievous, he will not obey me.
Aaah! Then I need to count. When I start counting, he knows he has to stop his naughty / dangerous activity before my count ends. Otherwise, he knows he will get a small smack on his leg / butt.
It usually works!
I find it very useful. When we go out, I can use the same practice. This way, I get the message across that he has to stop before my count ends without raising my voice, while he understands my message without embarrassing himself.
When apps saw how my counting works, he tried it himself. Unfortunately, it did not work.. Hahahaha! Apparently, Champion only makes it applicable to the person who taught him :P
Apps, you have to find your own way of making it simple for the both of you :)
And of course, I followed the expressions of love she taught us.. And with Champion's verbal skills improving, he has moved from Oooo much! to Lovu!
7 comments:
Hahah. I also use the counting method. But mine never get to 3. But to make this method work, you must follow through. Meaning, if you finish counting, make sure you carry through with your threat. Don't go 1, 2, 2 1/2, 2 3/4, 3. And then if they don't comply, nothing happens.
Of course this is not the best way to get compliance but when you are tired and can't think of any other way, this is the next best thing.
if there is ever a correct way of bringing up a child... then I guess we will be ending up with a world full of breathing robots... right?
What is right ? is that that we think not wrong or is that that we dont want to happen in the way that we dont want to cleanup after mess.
what is right ?
Is that that that happens the way exactly how we wanted that to happen. or is that that that not not giving us pain to repent latter.
how ever i know i am completely messed up this comment. Am i right ?
so both mommy and daddy need to creatively find ways to discipline both your boys? heheheh...
I had to try your method..
Now.. I go with naughty corner (will blog about it one day).. :P
Hmm... I have only make bb count from 1 to 10 before he end his driving act in our car. Never try the 1,2,3 and come over here thingy. Perhaps I shld give it a try.
lian,
Yeah, I always remind myself that I have to do what I say.. and since Champion knows that, he listens to me. Can't go into the halves just yet, he doesn't know what they mean ;P
Not that I am very strict, but it a better way for them to know that what they are up to is not permitted and has to stop, without screaming or unnecessarily 'baby' smacking them.
egghead,
Yeah, that's right. And, I actully don't like that either! :P
known stranger,
both of what you said looks right when it comes to parents ;)
No, you didn't mess up the comment, but made sure I read and understand it coz you messed my brain the first time I read it ;P
By the way, do I know this stranger?
mom2ashley,
Yaloh! I have made my way clear to them already, so now daddy has to try his ways..
Usually daddy is the calm and easy going one.. so, not much disciplining from him. But when its necessary, he will be so strict, that sometimes I feel pity, or even want to laugh.. to see a man so 'selamba' to be so strict! LOL!
zara's mama,
Did it work?
I wonder at what age do they understand the meaning of a 'naughty corner'.
allyfeel,
My 1, 2, 3 not necessarily have to 'come here'. Stop what you're doing also enhough :)
When they are naughty, and they have to understand that it has to stop, it could help ;)
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