Well, we really needed the celebration, or rather, the time out. On my birthday, as usual, both of us took leave, to spend time with each other. Left the boys at in-laws like everyday. After cooking a meal for both of us, we spent a whole day out. Later, fetched the boys, and went for dinner.
My, my, my.. its not easy having a decent dinner nowadays.. especially when Mr. President is pulling my hand for some food.. He can't have what I'm eating.. so, I can only pass him his biscuits. The moment its finished, I can feel another tug on my blouse.. Then come Champion.. after his short meal, when he finds his hands dirty and sticky oredi, he says he wanna wash his hands.. Once he gets down to wash his hands, if he finds anything interesting, he will start heading there.... Phew! Then again, all this is fun.. and tiring.
Wanting to make it complete, apps wanted to bring me for a movie. It had been ages since we went for a movie. So, we got my parents to take care of Champion, while mils take care of Mr. President. After our movie, we headed to my parents to fetch Champion. Guess what?! He 'merajuk'. He was sooo angry. He didn't want to come to us. He was soo angry that we left him. When I went close to carry him, he just pushed me away, cried and clinged on to his thataa.
After talking to him for a long time, he came to us.. and after that, he didn't leave his father. I think he was afraid that we will leave him again. Last night, he didn't even sleep on the bed. Apps had to hold him on his chest and sit there sleeping. Only about 4.00 a.m. did Champion allow apps to put him on the bed. That also, apps had to tell him continuously that he is there, right beside him. Only then he felt more secured I think.. or may be Champion was too tired oredi. So pitiful... All this feeling of being insecure and fear of separation started last year when I went on my business trip. Hmmm....
Even Mr. President is difficult. He allows other people to carry him only in my presence. If he doesn't see mummy, he gets scared... and he gives a warning he is gonna cry. And is he still can't see mummy.. *sob* *sob*
Hmmm, I think we cannot leave the boyz overnight anywhere again.. or at least until they get bigger!
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thataa : maternal grandpa
9 comments:
hehe... a romantic night-out that comes with a price huh?
i think i better start enjoying all my romantic dates with my sweetie, huh ;)
egghead:
You can say that again. Not easy having a romantic outing with two little kiddies!
sfo:
Yeap. You better do. Not that I am not enjoying my family life, but sometimes we miss our time alone...
Hi Geetha,
I don't know if it will help you but this is what I do with my kids when my DH and me decide to go for date.
1. Explain to them that it's a "Daddy and Mommy" night only. Use the word "dating" even.
2. Tell them what you will be doing. No mystery.
3. Always bring back treats for them. Hehehehe.
4. Oh, before going out, give them something they like that will occupy them e.g. ice-cream, their favorite show etc....
I was also reading this great parenting book. It says to recognize the child's feelings. Don't deny them. So instead of saying "You shouldn't be scared. We are not going to abandon you." Instead say "It is scary for you when Mommy is not around right?"
Something like that lah. Hope it all helps.
lian:
Thank you so much for the idea. Talking to them will be tough.. I don't see any signs that they understand, considering that the boyz are 1+ and 8 months old. But we do bring them back treats. But I guess I have to wait till they understand they word 'dating'.. and I shall be waiting! It was worse since he was also not feeling very well.
But I will definitely try ur suggestions as soon as they understand...
hey geeths, happy birthday baby. don't forget you got to spend the day with hubby (despite the ramifications).
also you should get this book for the kids, Owl babies by Martin waddell. it is lovely and talks about how the owl babies feel when they wake up one night and find their mommy gone. gitanjali loves it, and it is compulsory bed time reading at home
shri:
Thanks dear. Yeah, that's the best part, a family dinner. No complaints :)
Shall try to look for it at the bookshop. Both the boys loves books. Champion loves people to read the books for him, while Mr. President loves biting on it.
The only way a stranger can get near Champion is through a book. You tell him that u'll read a book with him, he'll sit on ur lap! And he won't leave you...
Happy Belated birthday ;) sorry I was sick over the week so didn't realised i missed it :)
u need to learn tricks to trick the children - or let them grow older a bit ;)
visithra:
Thank you dear.
Hoep you are feeling much better now.
Yeah. You can say that again. Its either me or the boys who need training...
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