History repeating itself

Yeap, history is repeating itself, but this time with Mr. President.

When Champion was about 7 months, I went on a 3 week business trip to Rome. We thought he wouldn't feel my absense. We had planned to leave him at my MIL's house, for the whole 3 weeks. We figured out that he would be okay, since he was already been left there during the day, and he has his cousins to play with. And his father would come and play with his after work. But, we were all wrong. He shocked us. After two days, he started crying at night, non-stop! MIL had to call apps to come over. He still carried on crying.. Apps figured out that he will be better if he was brought home. Apps drove back, at that wee hours, Champion in the arms, driving with one hand. True enough, Champion felt better, quitened down, and slept. Apps then sent him back in the morning, before leaving to work.

Hoping that he would be much better, he left him at MIL's that night. Ooopps, wrong move, dear. He cried again.. The same thing happened. So, thereafter, apps brought Champion home, took care of him by himself.

Luckily I had trained apps to handle Champion, as I was already 2 months pregnant. Forseeing that I would be unable to handle Champion most of the time, due to my morning sickness, big tummy and tiredness, I had already started training apps. I also was too tired and sleepy at night, and I couldn't wake up at night to take care of Champion during the night feeds. So, apps helped me there... Thank god! I am very grateful to him in this matter. He helped me a LOT. On the other hand, apps was also grateful and glad that he was able to handle the situation.

Coming back to my story, apps took care of Champion.. with me calling and talking to him trhough phone. Some nights, Champion wouldn't sleep. He would cry if he was put down. Apps realised it may be the fear of being left (since apps left him at MIL's). So, apps had to carry him, put him to sleep on his shoulders. Apps would call me in the nights, or in the early mornings, saying that both of them are watching cartoon or the fishes in the aquarium in the porch, b'coz Champion doesn't want to sleep.

It didn't stop there. My baby started having fever, didn't want to drink milk.. At one point, he even called me and told me to come back immediately. Yeah, he couldn't take it anymore. Sadly, I couldn't. I had a meeting to finish. No immediate flight back too. I tried, but I only got a flight back one day earlier than my scheduled flight. Apps somehow stuggled to calm and support Champion.. Days passed, and I was on my flight back..

When I saw Champion, my, my, my.. he had lost weight. He first didn't respond to me. But after some moment, he came to me. He clinged to me, and slept off on my shoulders. It was soo sweet. I missed him. I was also sorry that he was put through all that mental torture. Sorry baby.

But after all this, Champion is now closer to apps. I think because he found his security with apps. He knew his daddy was there for him. Sure enough. So, now, whenever apps is there, he clings to apps.

Few months after that experience, Champion showed some signs of 'separation trauma'. He didn't want us to leave him anywhere. He didn't even want to be left at MIL's house in the mornings. But, luckily, he has outgrown that fear.

However, till today, Champion doesn't stay overnight at MIL's place. He can last up to about 10-11 p.m. After that,he will start showing signs of anxiety and if we still haven't come back, he will cry and ask whoever that is carrying him to go out to the porch, to wait for our arrival. He won't want to be tricked to sleep off there. How clever!! And of course, we are already rushing home from whatever we are doing.

And NOW, the 7 month old Mr. President is showing some signs of it..

During the weekend, we had to visit a friend's mother at the hospital. So, we left both the boyz at my mum's place. Soon after, we got a phone call that Mr. President was crying and didn't want to drink his milk. Actually, we had planned to watch a movie before we head back home to get the boyz.. but then, we had to rush home to check on Mr. President.

When we got back, Mr. President was laughing out loud happily. He was happy that we were back. My, my, my, it is gonna be difficult for us. How are we gonna have our time out.

Even now, MIL mentioned that Mr. President becomes cranky in the evenings, when it approaches the time for me to get back home. When I am back, he will be smiling and laughing away, climbing on me, and sucking his thumb... And, if I don't carry him, he will cry!

My FIL and MIL expressed their shock and disbelieve. All their grandchildren have love to stay over with them. The children would ask their parents to go back. But, my boyz just can't wait for us to get them. What more different are we? All we do when we get back in the week days is just give them their meal, spend some time before their sleep and that's it...

What can I say. My boyz love being with us....
I love you Champion.
I love you Mr. President.