"I don't see myself staying home and taking care of 3 boys"
What I meant is that I would not like to be a housewife, taking care of children at home. I studied so hard to be a professional and am even pursuing further studies.. thus, I don't see myself wasting all that effort.
I love my work and its challenges in my life.. but that doesn't mean I don't love all 3 of my kids, or that I would rather dump the responsibility of taking care of my children to my MIL for the sake of my work. MIL is taking care of the children at her own willing and would be offended that we send the kids to other people. I send my kids to her place together with a maid.. to help her with the house work and the kids. The other children are bigger and already are taking care of themselves.
We even considered sending to a babysitter, but since we prefered that our baby be taken care with a watchful eye of MIL, we are considering a second maid for her.
I hope that they won't be anymore people to judge that we are being inconsiderate and selfish for having 3 children and sending them all at MILs.
As much as we love our children, we love and care for our mothers too!
PS : The reason I mentioned about MIL taking care of our kids and the rest of her grandchildren is so that my children understand her effort in caring for them when they read my blog when they grow up. I understand, but will they? In reading my blog, I hope they will learn our family values in loving and caring for each other.
5 comments:
I don’t understand why people still have to judge working mothers so harshly – I don’t see why the question even had to be asked – no mother is lesser just coz she loves to work.
Geethz didn’t have to clarify that she sends a maid to her mils place. If the children were a burden to them we would have heard of it as if im not mistaken her family reads her blog –
There are grandparents who love taking care of their grandkids and there are some who don’t – from the bond the children have with their gradparents you know it’s the former.
There is no law that says working mothers should not have more than one child.
The ones I don’t get a parents who leave their children at sitters and grandparents throughout the week and sometimes on weekends as well – that bunch shouldn’t have children at all.
nhi Geetha,
sorry If my comment hurt u.
Yes, u r lucky to have a MIL wo is ready to take care of your kids. and it is considerate fo you to also send a maid along.
I had my son taken care y my mother and she told me that she would not be able to take care of another child . So , I nver thought of another child. Luckily she made it clear .
I am once again sorry if my comment hurt u. Knowing the quality time that you spend with your children, and having been a reader of your blog for the past one year, I know u r sweet and considerate.
Aaahh thank you for the explanation.
Well put indeed. :)
I've always believed that feminism is all about having the RIGHT TO CHOOSE what is best for you and those around you.
It looks like you've done just that.
Kudos to you & thank you for your patience and kind explanation.
- Melissa
Aaahhh thank you for the explanation.
Well put, indeed. :)
I've always believed that feminism is all about having the RIGHT TO CHOOSE what is best for you and those around you.
Neither choice (working or staying at home) is better than the other. It's all about what works for you.
It certainly sounds like you're made the best decision for your family.
So, more power to you, gal!
Thank you for your patience and kind explanation.
- Melissa
You have nice in-laws who are willing to help out. Who thinks spending time with your kids bring them joy.
My in-laws.. haih.. I wish they are half like yours.
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